Men

As men get into their 20s and are no longer focused on defining their identity as distinct from their parents (the teen quest), they often face other questions. What does it really mean to be a man? Do I measure up? What does real manhood look like? What am I supposed to use my sexuality for? How do I break the addictions that I’ve already developed? What am I supposed to do with my life? How do I manage my relationships, my finances, my family? For many young men, this is the first time in their lives they realize they need mentors as well as peers.

How to Connect with other Men at Memorial

• A Community Group is a great way to connect with a core of people in the church. Some of our groups are intergenerational, some are not.
• Several men’s groups also meet—often early on Saturday mornings—in which men of different ages pray for one another.
• Within your group, we encourage you to identify one or two men to pursue one-on-one outside group time. Like all relationships, this takes some trial and error, some flexibility and a lot of perseverance.
• Beyond that, men in the church plan occasional gatherings—some structured, but many very informal—to give opportunity to get to know men of different generations.
• An easy way to start, though, is to linger after the service and get to know people. Memorial is the kind of church where some people will still be hanging out in the sanctuary an hour after the service. If you are willing, it isn’t difficult to meet other men.
• If you particularly want an older Christian man to mentor you, speak with any of the elders. You will see them leading the prayers of the people and serving communion. Tell them what you seek, and ask them to help you find it.